More than a Month!

Life gets crazy sometimes. The past month has been 3 dimensional world busy!  My husband and I went to Spain for a week (Que bueno!) and though he worked most of it, I had a great vacation by myself and with him. 

After getting back the realities of having a toddler and a tween really hit home.

I even had to take a break from FaceBook (except real work stuff) and have barely had a chance to write about anything.

School issues and education have taken top priority and they continue to keep me dancing.  I have even had to tell my spiritual helpers that if I am to do what I was put here to do, I need some help. 

I am not going to vent or rant just suffice it to say that this mom IS going to get through the next couple of months between tween drama, potty training, lack of daycare options, and educational testing it's all going to be a roller coaster of a ride into 2014 so if you don't hear from me again for another month, know I am trying my best to keep a happy, healthy, well-adjusted family while maintaining my sanity, spiritual compass, and purpose.

In the meantime I am also continuing to develop myself spiritually - the other thing keeping me busy and just started a class last night which I am super excited about.  As a Certified Reiki Master Healer, I am also offering free Reiki through a general distance healing list. Check out my Adored website or my Adored facebook page for more information.

So You Work from Home...

Remember what you thought of working from home before you started? Whether you transitioned from your office job to doing that work from home, or started consulting, or a new business venture, you probably had ideas I had like walking around in your PJs, getting housework and errands  done between work, and of course being there for your kids.

When I started working from home my daughter was 5 and went to school - perfect situation for working from home part-time.  Unbeatable in my book.

I soon realized that my plans of working from home part-time and balancing my baby weren't going to happen like I thought.  Never were those days working happily with the baby on my lap and me on my computer - both of us smiling joyfully.

I realized as my maternity leave was ending that I would have to get someone to come and help while I got work done like conference calls and meetings.  (My son has never been calm and quiet, the sit down type, or even the watch something on TV type).

It's been interesting working from home with a little one for over a year now.  I have definitely blown away a bunch of my own ideas of working from home - especially those images of a sweet baby sitting on your knee as you happily pound out work on your laptop.  Both of you blissfully unaware that at any moment those happy little baby fingers would hit the enter button while you are chatting with a client or the power button, proud of their dexterity, and end your work session. (It's one reason my image is what it is)

So how do you remain efficient, effective, and productive while working from home with a baby, toddler, or young child?  I would love other work from  home moms to comment on how they balance working from home.  If you haven't already, please take my survey (see sidebar).

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Do You Work Inside the Home or Outside the Home?

Years ago I was going through a local Junior League class to become a new member and at the President’s home at our graduation celebration another member asked a question that I have reflected on again and again over the past six years.  She asked if I worked inside the home or outside the home.



At the time I was working a full time job outside the home, but I considered that I was also working inside the home.  It wasn't either/or, but AND.

 

She worked inside the home full-time.  At the time I had never been a full-time SAHM, homemaker, housewife, or even a WAHM.  I didn't really have much choice but to return to my full-time job after my 12 weeks of maternity leave ended after my daughter was born.

 

With my second, nearly a decade later, things had changed.  I had a profession and was working part-time from home doing challenging and interesting work, mostly while my daughter was at school.  The occasional evening meeting wasn't bad and she could even tag along at times.  I had become a WAHM.

 

With a new baby, I dropped down to very part-time work before putting it to the side in December.  What I have learned is that there are upsides and downsides to all the choices we make for our families and ourselves and one solution is just one solution and there is certainly no one size fits all.   I have also learned that is isn't in my nature to solely do home-making. For me there is something fulfilling about having a project, completing it, and seeing the results of your work; being able to return to it, look at it, learn from it, and continue growing.  I also appreciate a neat house, clean clothes, and home-cooked meals.  Some other women may feel the same way about doing these tasks and be completely fulfilled in that, and I am so happy for them.  We are all different.  Those differences should not be ways to separate and divide us, creating unnecessary divisions between women based on our choices.

 

I know women across the spectrum, all of us working hard, whether inside, outside, or both.

 

I don't think either is easier than the other- especially if you are home with young children or working a job that is intense and demanding.  Both add value to our society, when done well.

 

But we do our best, trying to balance our lives and all of its intersections, as women have always done and I am sure will continue to do.

I am currently a full-time SAHM and working part-time on my business.  I have ventured into new territory and am allowing myself the room and freedom